Hatred's got NOTHING to do with it at all.

I refuse to be guilt-tripped by science-deniers who ignore medical, scientific and biological fact. They're the problem. And no, the rest of us don't have to change just because they say so. Those who wish to date trans women are welcome to do so. Those who don't, are also free to choose. Relationships can't be compelled, and those who try to do so are just as bigoted and sectarian as anyone else who wants to force their views on those who don't agree with them.
The evidence seems to support the idea that most violence and hate towards “trans women” of which there is no such thing, is directly due to the male not being advised that the “thing” he is trying to be romantic with has a penis.